BRIEF ARTICLE OVERVIEW: Deeming herself undateable by societyâs standards, Jessica did not have her first real date until she was 26-years-old. Finally, after significant weight loss, she was able to enter the dating game. At first she dated casually but had no idea what to look for or how to get it. She started to compromise her ideals trying to get as much attention as she could. Personal acceptance is what has taken the longest and was the hardest to find. Everybody learns their lessons in their own time âŠ.the only thing certain is that your whole life can change in the blink of an eye no matter how prepared you are for it. Sometimes it is nice to be surprised.